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Giacomo Girolamo Casanova de Seingalt was born in Venice in 1725. He was an adventurer, a traveller, a diplomat, and a writer. But of course, the profession he is most known for is that of serial seducer. His name is now synonymous with the art of seduction and, like Don Juan, he even has his own entry in the dictionary, being the definition of a promiscuous and unscrupulous lover.

As a writer, he is best known for his autobiography, Historie de ma vie, which he finished in Bohemia before his death at 73 years of age. In this book he sheds light on the customs and rules of European society in the 17^th century. He also tells of the 132 romantic trysts that he enjoyed during his lifetime.

For Casanova and his sybaritic upper class contemporaries love and sex were casual and lacking in the characteristic seriousness of the 19^th century age of Romanticism. Flings and affairs were common at that time among nobles who tended to marry for social conventions rather than love.

Casanova was a multifaceted figure with a personality that was completely dominated by sexual impulses. His typical behaviour towards a new lover could be broken down into four acts: first he would discover an attractive woman, typically in a vulnerable position or with relationship problems; he would then strive to be become a perfect companion for her, dazzling her with his cleverness and wit. In the second act, with the woman’s sense of gratitude at its height, he would seduce her into a short and passionate affair. This would cumulate, in the third act, with him taking her to bed. After making his conquest he would soon lose interest and exit the stage in the fourth and final act.

The secret of Casanova’s success with women wasn’t down to any mysterious quality. Rather, he simply offered each woman what she was looking for. In his own words, “There is no honest woman with an uncorrupted heart whom a man is not sure of conquering by dint of gratitude.” He never employed violence or alcohol as tools for seduction. Instead, he used attentiveness and small favours to find his way into a woman’s heart.

Casanova valued intelligence in a woman: “After all, a beautiful woman without a mind of her own leaves her lover with no resource after he had physically enjoyed her charms.” His attitude towards educated women, however, was typical for his time: “In a woman, learning is out of place; it compromises the essential qualities of her sex … no scientific discoveries have been made by women as this requires a vigour which the female sex cannot have. But in simple reasoning and in delicacy of feeling we must yield to women.”

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If you rent apartments in Venice one of the most romantic cities in the world. Here you can come and see where Casanova began his career as a lover and serial seducer extraordinaire.

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Translated by: Ben Palmer
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There is a great myth that exists in relation to women and faking orgasms. While many a man’s sexual pride derives from knowing that they have satisfied their partner, and assume that if the women says she has orgasms that they are in the clear, the reality is that you can never know 100% if a woman has come.

/> br /> Now a group of sexologists has showed that if your partner reaches orgasm 90% of the time it’s no problem if she pretends 10% of the time. Yes, at least according to experts, there’s nothing wrong if she uses her acting skills every once in a while, if most of the time things are working out- in fact she might no even be acting, just enjoying herself.

In fact, many sexologists explained that when a woman wants to reach orgasm but can’t, the best way to take herself to orgasm is to act as if she were having one- speeding up breathing, panting, moaning, moving her hips and perhaps even trying some subtle contractions of her pelvic floor. Why? Because these expressions of ecstasy “deceive” the thinking part of the brain, allowing the emotional side to relax and step up to provoke an orgasm.  Orgasms are an involuntary response, a culmination of many sensations and responses, not a math equation of stimulation multiplied by time equals orgasm.

However, it is a problem if your partner is always faking orgasm. You need to figure out, both together and apart, what really turns your partner on; in this case lying hinders communication and makes it more difficult to explore. It is also important to keep in mind that many women need to feel a lot of trust and intimacy with their partner before they really let go.

The best bet is to rent apartments in Venice, one of the most romantic cities in the world and explore with your partner everything that she needs to feel good.

Why do we do things, why do we have sex? If you ask this question to a few people, the vast majority will reply that they do it because of pleasure. And because we know one and a million ways of having sex, we should never get bored (theoretically). But there are more reasons for having sex. One of the most astounding reasons is making love in order to “sleep”. Yes, and this is due to the fact that our bodies generate so many endorphins that the only thing they are still capable of doing after the orgasm is sleeping like a baby.

There are more reasons than the classic staple of motivations for love making like “out of love”, “in order to feel an orgasm”, “for relaxation”, “to get pregnant”, and this is “by contract”, Yes, a lot of couples are bound to have sex a number of times a week by contract. It seems crazy and only thinking about it makes me freak out. But mostly couples that travel a lot arrange things this way: when you get back home after a few days because of your work schedule, honestly, the only thing you want to do is to relax. Therefore it is not unusual that busy couples forget to take care of their love lives.

A few friends told me one of the funniest reasons for having sex. They rented wonderful apartments in Venice in the city centre so they could enjoy the Biennale. One evening they found themselves in a bar where they saw a few very famous American actresses who had been invited to the film festival. And just to be able say that they had slept with a famous movie star, both friends had sex with her. As you can see, there’s always a good reason for lovemaking, so just pick your favourite, and rent apartments in Venice.